Sex is one of the biggest topics right now in our society and probably one of the most misunderstood. This first conversation between God and man involved our identity and it involved sex. Yet, growing up, I felt that the church shied away from the topic. The only conversation pertaining the issue was that sex was bad until you were married. Then, like the flip of a switch, it became this amazing thing that was great. Growing up in a society where the church avoided the issue and the rest of the world was forcing its sexually charged agenda made it hard to decipher between what was truth and what wasn’t. I always knew that as a parent I wanted to raise my children to know what sex is, why God designed it, and I wanted to help them understand the true beauty in it. I wanted them to grow up knowing that it is a “GIFT” from God. I knew that I could choose to be a sexual disciple or allow society to do it for me. I use the word disciple, because I don’t feel like sitting my kids down and having “the talk” is going to cut it. I am going to have to model it in my everyday life and have age appropriate conversations regularly. Being a sexual disciple to my kids means that I will walk with them through all stages of their sexuality and answer their questions as they arise.

Now you might be confused as to what this looks like. It isn’t always directly related to the “birds and the bees,” rather John and I choose to model and speak on things in ways that our kids can understand, and that we can build on in the future. One of the ways we have started walking this out with our children is by not allowing them to sleep in our bed. We wanted them to know that Mommy and Daddy’s bed is for Mommy and Daddy. We also teach them to knock before opening the door. While Jettie might not fully understand the importance of privacy at her age, I feel that as her mom it is important that I start laying the ground work so that I can build on this topic in the years to come.

Before I can disciple my children, I have to make sure that my own sexual worldview is grounded in truth. While I know that sex is a intimate and sacred matter that must be approached with reverence and wisdom, I refuse to associate this with silence. I refuse to make conversations about sex awkward or uncomfortable. Instead, I chose to seek out guidance from God and invite him into our house to help us as parents model and speak truth about his gift to us.

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