Have you ever gotten mad at your husband for not taking out the trash? I know I have. I can let the littlest thing set me off and start an argument. In the middle of a silly “elevated discussion” the other night, John asked why I made a big deal about something he didn’t do and say nothing at all when he would do something extra like unload the dishwasher or clean up the kitchen?

***Now before anyone out there says,”well the kitchen work is for the women and taking out the trash is a man’s job,” let me preface this by saying John and both work full time and do a great job at 50/50 parenting and sharing household chores.

Later that night, while I was laying in bed, I couldn’t stop thinking about what he said. He was right! At what point did I start allowing my expectations of what he should do overshadow my appreciation for everything he did? It was the fact that I EXPECTED John to take the trash out and stopped appreciating him when he did that caused me to get so upset when it didn’t happen. I had become so comfortable in our day to day life that I had started just expecting him to do things. Things that were special when we were dating like opening my car door or cooking a delicious dinner had become expectations, and I had stopped showing appreciation to him when he did it.

In realizing all of this, I am continually reminding myself not to get so complacent and comfortable in my marriage and life that I just expect things to happen and stop appreciating them when they do.

THE END.

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